Even if you have nothing in common, you can at least laugh about your poor mini-golf skills together. As a couple, you’ll figure out how to split and cover bills later. You don’t need to wear a suit and tie to the local pub, but it wouldn’t hurt to brush your teeth and put on a shirt that doesn’t look slept in. If you had a great time, let her know the next day.
If you can’t stand the person but have a great physical relationship, rethink the relationship. If one person is uncomfortable with any type of physical expression, don’t do it. Don’t push a date to do anything that makes him/her feel uncomfortable.
Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with commitment. This doesn’t mean anything goes if you are engaged. What is your motivation -- power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection?
If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop doing them.
You can blame your location, the ratio of singles to couples, or even the weather. DON'T stop pursuing new hobbies and other life experiences just because you’ve found a partner.
Bottom line, our attitude is more likely to create opportunities for us. Be cautious of giving up or limiting the time you spend doing things for "you", whether this be exercise, the beach, reading, cooking, spending time with friends, etc.
You must decide before you go on the date what your limits will be.