Once you know what excites you, you can bring those fantasies into your Skype sex to spice things up. After you've made a list of what turns you on, share it with your partner over a Skype call. "[It’s like] exercising a whole new muscle, if you will.”Bringing up your kinks can be scary, but just relax and be yourself.A list is a useful tool, as you can literally just read off of it.Yes, communicating during sex is important, but putting as much intention into the way and amount you communicate outside of sex helps maintain your general intimacy — so that when you finally get down to it, you and your S. Build up sexual tension by dropping dirty messages spontaneously.
Singh suggests having each partner write down a list of their fantasies. Watch some porn or read erotica and take note of what gets your blood flowing. Communication becomes even more crucial when in a long-distance relationship, and as Singh says, that includes your dirty talk. “A lot of people don’t even vocalize what turns them on," Singh says.Using the Skype messaging app, drop a photo of your panties lying on the ground and leave the rest up to your partner's imagination — and then resume the dirty talk.Singh says you can add an element of romance by stripping with lingerie that you've worn with your partner before. Oddly enough, the experiential failings of video chat can be the perfect tools to help you play with specific senses — namely, sight and hearing (since Skype hasn't quite yet created a touch simulation feature).They might have to wait until your next visit to experience it hands on, but tease them by using a dildo on yourself during Skype sex (feel free to keep your face out of it if you want). Have them use a vibrator on their clit and watch their orgasmic expression when the toy brings them to climax. Dare your partner to wear a butt plug throughout your entire Skype chat, or keep one in all day and message back and forth to see how they're enjoying it.Next level: New high-tech sex toys, such as the We-Vibe Sync, come with apps that let you play together even when you and your partner are apart, Singh says.There's no way around this: Long-distance relationships can be difficult.