I'm not talking about the woman you're too scared to talk to.
I'm talking about the woman that you dream of, finally find and chase down, but then are too afraid to date.
The same women who intimidate you have the same fears, hopes and dreams as you. They're normal, so stop holding them to some level that intimidates you; you don't know her yet.
Hearing, “You're intimidating,” directly from a man is not typically a one-time occurrence.
If there is one phrase I'm tired of men dropping, it's, “You're intimidating."Before I jump up on my soapbox and make myself even more "intimidating," let me write a disclaimer: This article is not intended for the woman you are too afraid to approach.
I can't fix the mean girl who blows you off at the bar or the not-so-mean girl you just said has “resting bitch face (RBF).” (Also, I'm pretty sure my brain-on-fire-and-therefore-deep-in-thought face does not mean I'm a bitch, so please stop using “RBF").
I applaud your honesty, but why are you telling me this?Besides, if you actually took a chance to get to know me, you would realize I am the last person who should intimidate you, and here's why: Here are five things you should know about the woman you keep calling “intimidating”: One reason why relationships fail is that one or both parties find themselves bored and develop wandering eyes, ears and hands (sadly).Guess what: The person who slightly intimidates you is also the person who will constantly keep your attention.She knows who she is and what she wants out of life. They command — never demand — attention, and they do it with mesmerizing grace and style. If you were a fly on the wall for our girls' nights, our one-on-one conversations, you would immediately lose all intimidation. The same girl you're too afraid to talk to starts each morning with a kitchen dance party.The same woman you find intimidating is also really good at making the same raunchy jokes as you are. She's clumsy and messy, can “man” a BBQ, yells at the TV for her team, enjoys downtime on the couch and eating junk food. Just her, the dog, a cup of coffee and the Top 40 getting down with her wet hair and makeup-free face.The woman who has heard it once has likely heard it a thousand times.