You might be making a decision about whether to stay or go.You might be thinking about what happened in your relationship and pondering the coulda, woulda, shoulda. You may be thinking that you wanted them to be the right person and that you don’t want to have to try again.I wonder if they’ve got something wrong with them – hmmm, let me Google possible conditions and work up a diagnosis.Oh my God – what if they change for the next person?
There’s no easier way to sit on the fence in your own life by thinking the crap out of everything while saying it’s the other person or old situations or the pain that’s holding you back. You’re not trying to come up with a cure for cancer or coming up with theories that will have you going down in history with the likes of Einstein and Freud; you’re thinking deeply about yourself or another person or the sum of your relationship or even life, in an unhealthy manner.Investing a deep level of thinking into something that’s gone and that you have no control over, is a waste.It’s also important to recognise that aside from relationships serving to teach us about ourselves, changing you in the equation doesn’t change them.Remember when you’ve been involved with that person that sat on the fence, treated you like an option, flip flapped, said they weren’t sure of their feelings? Not making a decision is a decision in itself – a decision to do shag all.The mistake isn’t the outcome of the decision itself; it’s to not make one.Even on public property, you can’t photograph somebody who has a “reasonable expectation of privacy.” Basically, that means you can’t snap shots of people in the bathroom, a dressing room, or similar places. If your public photo opp passed these three stages, you’re safe to shoot some pictures.