It seems to me that lots of middle aged women get divorced and stay single. And, older men have interest but that isn’t really fair either. I would like to know your thoughts on the likelihood of 50 year old women finding a second life partner. It’s really funny that I would get this email from you, wondering about dating over 50. Because I’m turning 50 in 6 months, and I’m recently single again. I have had some issues while shopping for clothes in recent years, because all the clothing out there either seems too young or too old for me. again.” The slash between happiness and marriage clearly indicates that you equate happiness and marriage, and that’s something I definitely don’t do. I would ultimately like to be married again (I think) but anyone who reads this blog should know by now that I don’t feel marriage brings happiness unless you wait for the right person and/or the right time.
I might just be feeling sorry for myself but it seems to me that a 50ish woman is somewhere in no-man’s land for a future relationship. So, I guess what I’m trying to say in response to your asking my thoughts on the likelihood of a 50 year old woman finding a second life partner is: I HAVE NO CLUE, I’ll let you know when I find out? Perhaps this same attitude applies when it comes to dating. I equate happiness with: children, family, career, fun and surrounding myself with people I love and enjoy, whether that involves romantic love or not. The last thing I will tell you to do is to slow down and don’t panic.
Don’t assume that one great date means that you are now dating.
It may have worked like that way back then but not necessarily so now.
Jackie, I am approaching 50, and just over one year separated from my husband.
As I look forward and begin to think about the possibility of future relationships, I can see that dating over 50 might be difficult. So, not only does a large age range, (let’s say 42-57 perhaps?
You can’t control how people will act, so aim to make each experience a positive one and learn from what happens.If you do walk away knowing that you won’t see the person again, at least you have done that in good faith. It is also important to go on the date with no huge expectations other than going out to have a good time. Some women prefer to pay on a first date as it somehow nullifies any expectations a male might have by paying.Communication is largely the key in any successful relationship so make sure that you start off on the right foot. This may not work for some and it can be a gray area.If you are not really hitting it off, it is shorter time wise than going out to dinner.There are basic safety precautions that you need to take but remember the main idea is to be light hearted and go with the positive opinion that you will be meeting someone new and you will have a good time.It just makes sense to take precautions for your own safety until you get to know this person.