But then, I only took one psych course in college……I like to keep things simple.
All I want, to use an old-fashioned term, is a girlfriend.
The nature of his business is that it ebbs and flows and he’s been very busy since we met, so I’ve accepted that we have limited time together, and that if he has any serious free time, he’s going to spend it with his son if he can.
OK, Ladies, you want the honest, real, unvarnished truth about what a commitment minded, nice, cute, professional, divorced 54-year-old man really wants from you? As a guy she’s been a tremendous help in terms of understanding and relating to women in the 50 age group.BTW, since this article was first published, LM has met a lovely woman and is enjoying a great relationship with her. Short men are screwed when it comes to dating, right?They desperately want love and stability but feel the pull of parenting responsibility and end up neglecting their love lives. Is it okay that you never go out to dinner on proper dates?Are you content coming in third after his kids and career? If he lets you go, you saved yourself a lot of time and angst. What matters is that you have a happy, healthy, nurturing relationship that’s slowly growing into something more. But if its coming up on a year and there is still the compartmentalizing, I’d have to rethink it. It’s one thing to be the cool, nurturing, patient girlfriend IF your needs ARE getting met. It’s not being self-centered to walk away because you need more; it’s centered.But it is hard being third on his list: son, job, and then me.