As any of the 272,000 followers of the Instagram account “DILFs of Disneyland” will tell you, there’s just something about a man with a baby.In fact, the data analysts at behavioral matchmaking site Zoosk recently learned that single dads receive 22% more first messages than those without children."They told me I was too old to date."Since then, Eva and her 13-year-old son have had many discussions about her relationships with menand his with girls.He once waited up for her when she was out on a date and asked, "How did it go? Later, the two discussed her difficulty ending the relationship.Part of the allure can be explained by the medium: When you join a dating website, especially one with a reputation for more than hookups, you’re being deliberate about finding a partner and fatherhood generally implies the man is capable of a meaningful relationship.Not to get too Freudian, but dads – the good ones – have the personality traits you’re probably looking for in a boyfriend.When the family disintegrates, achild's sense of self is threatened, even if he maintains strong ties to both parents.Neuman recalls, "This 13-year-old kid once said to me, 'I feel, now that my parents are separated, that Idon't exist.'"While most children don't articulate their feelings so strongly -- in fact, most shrug or say "okay"if asked how they're coping with a parental split -- therapists who work with children of divorce agreethat divorce makes kids question who they are, where they came from, and where their lives are headed.
From the start, Cathy said little about her father's growing relationship with a new woman."I didn't really want her to know much in case it didn't work out," he recalls.“Dating single dads” may not be on your bucket list, but it turns out that single fatherhood is a mental shortcut to learning desirable traits about a potential new man.According to Joan Barnard, the Zoosk relationship expert, we’re attracted to dads thanks to a biological assumption that the man is healthy enough to procreate.The child urged herto say goodbye to the man she'd been seeing, and Eva is now moving toward doing so, in part because she was so impressed with her son's observations.But despite such late-night chats and an occasional "flurry of activity" on her social calendar, Eva hasno interest in introducing any man to her sons."Some of the people I've met have said, 'Why don't my son and I meet you somewhere?' Some men use theirkids like dogs in a park to get attention.