Quickly we began to see that my son had almost no ability to self-regulate; he experienced major mood shifts with extreme anger outbursts; and he got in trouble frequently at school due to his provoking other students and his inability to focus. Part one of this article will break down the negative effects, and part two will highlight the positives. Parents of SN kids will inevitably resent their child at some point.
(Of course, if any of us went through the same things he did, we’d probably have those problems, too.) Nothing could have prepared me for the anger my son carried. All parents will have an occasional bad day and question why they had kids in the first place.
If you think it’s draining to meet the needs of a child who has such a vast arsenal of needs, imagine how you’d feel if at least half of your attempts to make that child happy were to end in tears—the child’s visible, yours hidden.
I am focusing on children with special emotional needs, including children who have a psychiatric diagnosis.When my social worker told me that she'd found a little boy they thought would be a good fit for my family, the social worker didn’t describe my son accurately.We were told that he had no behavioral problems or significant mental health symptoms.Part of what consists of my son’s special needs includes his trouble initiating solitary projects or doing almost anything on his own.Because he lacked much of the guidance any child needs to thrive early on in life (meaning, the first few years), he craves attention, physical affection, and visual mirroring. I’ll give you an example: “Will you watch me play with my car? It’s a major strength in my son that he is so aware of some of his most primitive needs, and it’s an added strength that he verbally asserts himself.To begin, there is no strict or clear definition of what it means for a child to have “special needs.” Many people think of special needs as necessarily involving a serious or chronic medical condition.