The scary reality is that we can find an answer somewhere to justify what we want to do — right or wrong, safe or unsafe, wise or unwise.The advice we choose might be from a book by a doctor, or a random conversation with someone at church, or a blog post by a teenager, or just something we found on Pinterest.These guys didn’t guard me from every mistake or failure — no one can — but they played a massive role in helping me mature as a man, a boyfriend, and now as a husband.And I wish I would have listened to them more in dating.You will not truly love anyone else if you do not love God first and most.And no one will truly love you if they do not love God more than they love you.They stepped in when I was spending too much time with a girlfriend or started neglecting other important areas of my life.
Instead of getting the qualified perspective and direction we desperately need from people around us, we walk away eating a candy bar for dinner, again, and washing it down with Dr. Real friendship, with real life-on-life accountability, may not offer the same amount of information or advice, and you will not always like what it has to say, but it will bring one new critical dimension to your dating relationships: it knows — your strengths and weaknesses, your successes and failures, your unique needs.
They knew where I had fallen before in sexual purity, and they weren’t afraid to ask questions to protect me.
They have relentlessly pointed me to Jesus, even when they knew it might upset me — reminding me not to put my hope in any relationship, to pursue patience and purity, and to communicate and lead well.
Most people will float along with you because they’re excited for you, but you need a lot more than excitement right now — you have plenty of that yourself.
You desperately need truth, wisdom, correction, and perspective.
One Lord, one faith, one baptism — and a billion different dating tips.