Until then, it’s all speculation, hope, fantasy, desire, wishful thinking, and potential. What I’m writing about is what you make all of this dating stuff MEAN. remember the phone session we had last month where we were looking at one of the guys who had written to me on Match.
See, you’re identifying each man as the problem here. After all, if 50% of all guys are going to disappoint, then this behavior is utterly predictable. But then after exchanging several emails and a few phone conversations, he told me he was dating someone else and that he would call if things didn’t work out, and I was a bit upset by that. She doesn’t assume that they’re “together” because they kissed.
You can overrreact to each seemingly personal slight, or you can deal with it in a graceful and detached manner like Lorraine. I couldn’t disagree with Kristy more as far as her logic for not giving the guy Lorraine went on a date with a 2nd chance.
If he had made up a lie and said “I can’t see you right now because I’m taking care of my sick mother”…There are literally dozens of legitimate reasons you could pass up a man. – tell Lorraine the truth about why he couldn’t pursue her right now. I’m still hormonal, cranky, and butt hurt about it, but I know that in time, I will return to a place more peaceful and will agree with everything that you’ve written below.So, if that’s the case, would you want each man to conclude that because of his rejection: Women are fickle and shallow. -Amy How can you trust or respect the guy who was already dating another gal while corresponding with Lorraine? Society tells them they’re beautiful and they’re mad at Tinder and Ok Cupid for not providing better prospects. I’m the average-looking sidekick, “the one who online dates,” and it’s my fault they aren’t having a better time. My best friend, who looks like the racially ambiguous lovechild of Brad Pitt and Pocahontas, waves her phone at me in righteous indignation. Several of my “classically attractive” friends are pissed.If you’ve been reading my newsletters long enough, you know that while such events are all encouraging, none of them qualify as “real”.