I took him at his word but a year on, they’re not divorced yet (or even close) and twice he’s said that he’s crazy about me but that he thinks he should give his marriage another shot. If you were with a separated person who was ready to move on, he wouldn’t be trying to reconcile with his wife!He then claims they’re working at things but keeps calling me. In your case, it’s a bit like a violation of the trade description act.Renee asks: I got talking to this really lovely guy at work event just over a year ago.
You don’t have to treat this guy like a last chance saloon.Whilst he is leading you up and down the garden path, ultimately it’s you who is going back and not heeding the warnings of his flip flapping behaviour.If he’s really getting divorced and he really wants to be in a relationship with you, tell him to come back when he’s free to be with you properly and accept nothing in between that because you’ve already tried that and it hasn’t worked and how could you trust that he wouldn’t continue to flip flap back to her?The first time it happened was devastating and the second time, I lost it with him, and yet…I’m still waiting for him to do the right thing. I’m crazy about him and I don’t want to feel like I’ve wasted a year – I’m 38, I don’t have time to waste! You’ve brought a product under the impression that it is and does as described and have discovered that it doesn’t and are the disgruntled customer who wants what she paid for – the man you met is not on offer.I would never have got involved with him if I’d known that he was separated and I certainly wouldn’t have stayed if I’d known it was going to be like this. When I try to get something concrete from him, he tells me to stop pressuring him and that “Six years is a long time you know Renee! But I don’t want to be treated like this either and I’ve been reading your site and am worried I’m with a Mr Unavailable. The man you met a year ago, was footless and carefree on a night out.You probably would have proceeded more cautiously and asked more crucial questions and opted out when it became apparent that this isn’t a healthy situation to be involved in.