I’m 39 but people usually think I’m several years younger. –Liz Very well then, let’s take a look at your observation – that men, in general, tend to be interested in thinner women, and that your dating life, in general, has been impacted by these additional 15 pounds.I’m not fat by any means, but it seems that it wouldn’t matter whether I weighed 150 pounds or 200, the result would still the same. I wouldn’t (and couldn’t) dispute your version of events.Do you think that James has to resign himself to accept that perhaps he can’t get the cream of the crop woman – thin, curvy, educated, cultured – on ,000/year? Therefore, all you can do, Liz, is to be conscious of this, and make the best of your circumstances. I’m quite confident that things will turn around for you – the second you stop looking down on the men who do like you for you.I’m not passing judgment either way, but I will point out that it’s a pretty similar comparison – one which illustrates, in stark terms, that life simply isn’t fair. It’s lazy dating advice telling you to lose weight to attract more men. Do lots of women judge men on their financial status? Most of us have always wanted to have a few extra-marital affairs every now and then.However, I think it’s really important to be able to view issues from all sides.My loyalty as a dating coach is to truth and reality – not to what’s fair or what’s right.
Do you think that women should see him as an equally viable option on his middle class salary as they did on his upper middle class salary? Either make more money – or find the woman who doesn’t find money to be as important.
Include the words “sexy”, “honest” and “confident” and your chances of success will significantly increase.
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For years, James was a mortgage broker outside Miami, until the real estate market collapsed. The man you’ll marry is ultimately the one who will love you and accept you at your current weight.
At the height of his career, he was pulling in 5,000 a year. The man who doesn’t love and accept you…is clearly not your husband.
I do my best to follow all of your advice, and as a result think I make a good date.