But I've been watching and compiled a list of DOs and DON' Ts from Jess's experience dating the sophisticated Dermot Mulroney as Fancypants, who's a whopping twelve years older.Or, you know, some version of whining about your age. With age (often) comes maturity and chivalry—take advantage!I get an enormous volume of contacts but these fifty year olds are like herding cats on caffeine. One second they’re super interested and then a day later it’s “hmmm, well, I’m not sure, yes, no, maybe, catch me if you can”.They break up with me and then come back to renegotiate what I could best describe as a non-physical/friends with emotional benefits/rental husband offer (which doesn’t sound too appealing to me to be honest).They cannot give the happiness you are having with your man.Are you dating an older fellow or thinking about dipping your toes into that more mature water? Or, in Jess's (Zooey Deschanel's character, for those of you who aren't fans yet) case, don't ask about his health: "How's your prostate? Our bodies are decaying."DO relish in the fact that guys get better looking with age, but you'll always be the hot, younger girlfriend.DO treat the relationship the same as you would with a guy your own age. There's already enough pressure when it comes to dating, why add more stress and think about the age thing if you really like this dude?
Bobbi brings up things I would never have thought of.
All I want, to use an old-fashioned term, is a girlfriend.
Somebody I can take out to dinner on Wednesday, a picnic on Saturday, and talk to or text during the week. Getting dates isn’t the problem, it’s converting just one to girlfriend status that has been the challenge.
These women have been emotionally abused, disappointed, betrayed and they are just so hard-wired to not get hurt again. By setting unattainable standards (fantasy man) they ensure they will never again let somebody close enough to them to hurt them again.
But then, I only took one psych course in college……I like to keep things simple.
’ texts and return texts within a few hours gets moved to the top of my list just because it’s so rare. When it comes to dating and relationships, men and women’s experiences aren’t so different…unfortunately. Even if you don’t see yourself in his description, I hope just knowing the crazy dating gauntlet guys go through will help you have compassion and understanding.