Last week, i discovered that my bf of 5 yrs is on a dating site called Plenty of Fish. I just want to pack up while he is not here and leave without a word as I feel that he is going to literally just dump me one day to another. I have never been lied to like this before and it's shoking that there are people out there like this. Thank fully she found out about me and told m EVERYTHING. There is happiness out here and it sure as hell is not being with someone who is entertaining other women and lying to you. I have fohnd out that during the 2 years relationship there wasn t a period when he wasn t lying.
About three weeks ago, we went through a huge fight and even took a week off.. He is on badoo saying he is single and lives on his own and constantly trying to ask out somebody. You are sacrificing your own happiness for someone who clearly does not know what they want in life. I'm very worried about when it's over how I'm going to het ober this horrible experience and the insecurity I feel is crippling.
Hi Norma2, welcome to the forum, watch the dates...years ago was the posting date of this forum. If you are telling anyone it is normal to have a cyber anything, I think you need to PM me to cleanse your own relationship and tell me what you are on this site for and why you are okay'ing a man cheating. I think the guy is a real **** for posting on POF and trolling for - whatever while he is involved in a relationship with you. But I would definitely use this as a jumping off point for discussion with your boyfriend. But I would definitely give him a taste of his own medicine and do not be afraid. If not, dump him if he shows you that he really does not appreciate you. I seriously think this is an addiction and some type of emotional issue. At this point I've truly had enough and am ready to move on.
Do you live with this or stop it all and find another who may do the same thing.... The fight...one you think started it all...let that happen and then used it as the excuse to indulge. Shut up and live with it or pack up and move on girlfriend. You need to be able to watch his reaction and see the whole story. Maybe he's having cyber sex with these people--but it's up to you to draw the line with what you are okay with and not. I'm just saying that 5 years is a long time, and while you ABSOLUTELY have a right to be hurt, suspicious, and angry, hear him out. If you are just a temporary girl in his mind, you will get more hurt later down the road. I checked his call log and there were calls while I was at work and while I was sleeping to a local chat line.
Confronted him and he snapped saying he wasn't ready for a realationship..
About 6 months into it I found he opened a separate FB page and was friends with other girls he met on POF.well as his ex girlfriends.
But my point is, ignoring the issue will only make it worse. After a period, due to this ignorance, he may get the courage to bring this cheating out of the cyber world into real world. I think it is a GREAT idea to post your photo with the exact same profile as he has done on POF and see how he responds. Eventually one day I took out my photo album where there were many pictures of old boyfriends and casually flipped through it. If he comes off all defensive and accuses you of invading his privacy, you will know what kind if man you have on your hands - one who is not fully appreciative of you. You are the first prize, not the consolation prize. It's bringing me down and making me feel like there is something wrong with me, makes me feel super insecure.
It means he is looking for variety while keeping you as the GF. You are the only one who can choose whether you want to turn a blind eye or end it with him. We had a huge fight about this about a month ago when I once again found him on POF.
If your scared to confront him make your own POF webpage. Tell him you didn't know how to address him on it and this was the best solution to get his attention. When they boyfriend is going on POF and such..means he is looking for discreet affairs and is quite bored with the relationship and is looking to have his needs met for casual what is for him is sex and nothing emotional. Every few months or so I caught him doing something similar.
You need to focus on you, your needs, your future, and your happiness.
Mary Hello Matilda, Your boyfriend has never truly been with you.
Then when he freaks out on you tell him thats how you felt and you wanted him to understand the anger and hurt you felt. I say you can forgive someone but never forget what they do to your heart My boyfriend done exactly the same about a week ago, I found him on a dating site so I made an account myself as someone else and messaged him, he even sent me his number, I'm still with him now I don't even no what to do You made an account knowing that your boyfriend didn't know it was you ok And he gave you his number ( hello) he gave you his number to a random girl who wasn't his girlfriend. However, he was exchanging phone numbers with these women.