The neon sign that is flashing “hot mess” is not necessarily referring to the woman always.
Sometimes it is referring to your communication skills. The many oxytocin receptors in women, compared to the few in men, and the excess of vasopressin receptors in men, creates a gender bias in women's and men's approach to relationships.
Understanding why we are, the way we are, empowers us to adapt evolutionary inclinations to our situations. How he or she chooses to express those needs is optional. REFERENCES Molecules of Emotion: Candace Pert (Touchstone, NY, NY 1999) Oxytocin modulates social distance between males and females: Scheele D, Striipena N.
Just as there is nothing wrong with a man or a woman choosing to be non-traditional, there is nothing wrong with he or she choosing to be traditional. et al (Journal of Neuroscience, November 2012) Personality is tightly coupled to vasopressin-oxytocin neuron activity in a gregarious finch: Kelly AM, Goodson JL (Frontiers In Behavioral Neuroscience, February 2014) Instant messages vs. Lonely in a more existential sense of having never experienced any level of physical or emotional intimacy at an age when many people I know are married with children.
Men who cannot find or keep girlfriends categorically make seven mistakes regarding women.You cannot treat them like any of those things and if you do, you will not have them for long.Too Little Hugging and Talking Oxytocin causes women to bond with their babies.Evolution designed men to spread as much seed as possible. Oxytocin is the bonding hormone, whereas vasopressin is the do anything but bond hormone Oxytocin causes women to say “nest”; vasopressin causes men to say “next”; So understanding that, if you want to have a girlfriend, you need to lead, as you would on the dance floor. Overreacting to Clinginess All humans fear intimacy.When another person moves towards you, the brain’s default response is to move away for safety. I am a Michigan alumnus and football is a religion to me. ” Instead the words, “It’s okay the game is not important today. Thus, establishing boundaries with women is not always easy.Clinginess is invasive, threatening, annoying, suspect and extremely unattractive, “if you read it that way.” You can also interpret it as, “I just want to be with you.” The solution here is flexibility and communication. I was working on a project with a woman (whom I was quite smitten with) and I told her explicitly not to call me on Saturday’s during football season. Bottom line, women tend to be clingy more so than men—again oxytocin.