Man C: I married a girl my age and dated a couple others who were around my age.
But what about the notion that men are "hard-wired" to seek a smooth-faced, curvy receptacle for reproduction and thus are drawn to younger women?Tessina, Ph D, a licensed family therapist in practice in Long Beach, Calif., and author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again, tells Web MD.For their part, the men like the sophistication and life success of their older mates, she explains."The women," he says, "were more interested in men their own age or older." As for the men, he says: "I guess it could be nice not to hang around a ditz with no knowledge of music or something like that." "We have strong 'shoulds' on ways of partnering up," Kathryn Elliott, Ph D, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, explains to Web MD. We pathologize anything that isn't within those shoulds." The key to making older women/younger man relationships work, Elliott says, is to match what she calls voltages."Choose someone who is your voltage type -- has the same level of intensity about life. You don't expect someone who is so much older to have so much in common with you or the desire to connect with you the way some older women do. And with 15 years more experience, they're more interesting to talk to. Man A: Older women are more open to letting you try new things.