Two of them are still close friends and Facebook cheerleaders. Some want to lure you off to a pay-per-view sight where they can show you the “real pics.” And “Don’t worry,” these porn saleswomen say, “Registration is free.” Oh, and look for the cutie who is 10-15 years younger than you, within 500 miles and has an age range between 35 – 75.
So, there are good people trying online dating, you just have to uncover the right one for YOU. They are trolls or sales folks trying to game the system for financial gain. If you get the feeling something isn’t quite right when looking at their profile, just pass on the in-person.
Or, better for me, meet along the local walk/run trail and get acquainted without mind altering beverages. Online Dating Myth #1: Online Dating is Not a Form of Dating. Online Dating Myth #3: If a woman (or man) is actually really cute and not a headcase she’d never be online dating anyway. We’d prefer Facebook, where we can see what you’re really like, with your friends, but you’re not a friend yet.
Even ending all email or text responses is a better answer than saying there’s some interest when you know there isn’t any. Don’t prolong the misery by giving false positives. But don’t be fooled by their looks, their profile statements, or their fluent email banter.
Women of marginal beauty, on the other hand, are hit on constantly.
Now, this isn’t to say they are getting valid or polite propositions.
All that time and effort you put into wooing a woman online is NADA if you meet in person and something is off. Skip the romancing until you’ve established a mutual interest.
Online Dating Truth #5: Your first date may say “Okay, see you again soon.” And there is a 50/50 chance they are lying. If there’s no magic, a casual “Thanks, call me” is as bad as “Um, thanks anyway, but no.” The problem is, it’s much more misleading. If there’s no chemistry, and you’re absolutely NOT interested in a second date, don’t act like you are.
There’s a great study from OK Cupid about how good looking people are perceived by their photos. I can’t tell you the number of times the chemistry was smokin hot and their profile photos were awesome and the in-person meeting was a dud.