Hooking Up is Common and Accepted To college students, hooking up means having casual sex.For high schoolers, it can mean that, too, but usually refers to making out at parties or get-togethers.
“We don’t have the vocabulary and we don’t have the experiences to be able to help.
Jennifer*, a junior at Sanderson High School in Raleigh, notes that while it’s not cool to “talk” to more than one person at a time, some people go from one talking “relationship” to another without actually dating anyone, which tends to explain the relatively low numbers of actual couples.
For instance, among Megan’s circle of about seven close girlfriends, only two have boyfriends.
Broken hearts after a breakup are real, too, and just as with adults, there’s no timetable for recovery.
What to watch for: If your teen experiences signs of depression weeks after a breakup, appears to be arguing or behaving differently with their boyfriend/girlfriend, withdraws from other friends or shows signs of physical abuse such as bruises or scratches, check with your doctor, school counselor or a community psychologist right away, advise both Gurwitch and Reardon.
This can mean discussing your family’s views on sex before marriage, as well as frank talk about abstinence, birth control and sexually transmitted diseases.