"I manage people, and I manage resources, and the responses were very different then." For her, online dating didn’t end in love.
Instead, she eventually ended marrying someone from her congregation.
But that’s pretty uncommon – it worked for them because they set specific, careful boundaries, and there are a few other pastors at the church.
But even with the challenges, all three women said their place in the dating world isn’t all that unique.
"It’s not unlike, I think, a lot of women in high-profile or executive positions," Gearhardt said.
Ultimately, Cassida and Gearhardt married people who respect what they do.
"I keep waiting for someone to walk through these doors of Bek's, because I feel like he might work really well." Friends from outside of church have suggested that she look to her congregation for prospects. That’s what worked for Bonnie Cassida, pastor of Bethel Baptist Church in Columbia. Her husband had died of cancer, and she was looking for someone to spend time with, for companionship. Along with that, she felt like people wouldn't understand what it meant to be a Baptist minister, or they would have preconceived notions of what she would be like. And there are stereotypes about women in leadership," Cassida said.
Everyone seems so excited about possibilities and I'm sitting back confused because I don't see it or I don't want to see it because of the chaos in my life.At first, she was open about being a pastor, but that didn't go over too well."So then, I started saying I’m an executive, which I am," she said. He is single never been married and looking for his wife.He feels that God made me for him but I'm not sure if I feel the same.My questions are: Does God give a sign to the woman as well as the man?