I'm a med student, and I don't have ample amounts of free time, so we've only me about once a week (3 dates so far).
Instead of seeing yourself as this low self-esteem, sad, put-upon girl who throws herself at unavailable men only to discover that, in fact, they’re unavailable, how about you flip the script? When I started reading the letter I could identify with that feeling in many ways, and “not wanting to be alone” lead me to tolerate things I shouldn’t have and to act in ways that didn’t make me feel proud of myself.
First of all, not many guys approach me so I always have the urge to do the approaching or I feel that I will never be approached. I have this fear of being alone forever and sometimes I wonder if I’m doomed to be single forever…and I hate the idea of being alone. It’s really hard for me to go day after day without a boyfriend.
I don’t have many hobbies to focus on which is probably part of my problem. I used to have a happier more fulfilling life when I didn’t think so much about guys. ☺ The wisest among us are the ones who can acknowledge and understand another’s point of view.
My issue comes with him still having his profile up, and with my curiosity getting the best of me, I check almost everyday just to see when he last logged on – seems to be every few days or so.
I have read what you have written on this subject and I know you said that men are slower to remove their profiles than woman – so my question is how long is reasonable to wait for him to do this before you say something or begin to feel offended by it?
While I still believe what I wrote there, I’m finding that many of the women who are contacting me are not at the point where they are sure if the man is their “boyfriend” or not.