The few men I spoke who do still occasionally approach women without using a dating app first all described that flush of excitement you get, regardless of the outcome.
"Nothing more rewarding than getting a girl's number in a bar," one told me, "You feel good about yourself.
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Nearly all said they thought you needed to be super attractive to pull it off.
I started to ask other men in my life about going up to talk to women they didn't know. I was sat at a table piled with Aperol Spritz in a North London bar where the queue for a drink was a revolving door of attractive young people.But when I suggested approaching one of the girls around us, Tom - my single, nice, male friend - laughed at me.Because if you think our mobile phone addictions have ruined mealtimes, think about what it is doing to the ancient ritual of the IRL chat-up.Where once we looked outwards for people we liked, hoping one is delivered on the wings of chance, now we bow our heads and flick through carefully managed bios and outdated group shots.We will take all good-faith reports of harassment by Women in Tech members, especially the administrators, seriously.