These days, the reasons are less dramatic and probably have more to do with lifestyle choices than anything else.
Keep in mind this is coming from a guy who predominantly dates White women.I don’t know what Dan’s preferences are, or even if he has them, but I think he’s like Mojo–he’s okay either way, and he’d love to date Asian women, but they just aren’t there. I know an Asian American guy whom we’ll call Dave who prefers White women physically and is attracted to White women but will only date Asian women seriously. But he does date both White women and Asian women for now. Even though Asian isn’t his primary interest, he still dates Asian and gets snubbed for racial reasons. So one day I took him out for drinks, and after we put back a few, I asked him straight out how it felt to go to work every day surrounded by women who looked like Japanese supermodels. He actually had had a few White girlfriends in the city, despite working late hours. I talked to him about the IR disparity, and he said it was a good thing and that he preferred IR himself. Keep on engaging with Asian women, keep on trying to build up your own talents, keep on trying to be the best person possible because no one else will do it for you.As we talked, there were a few attractive Asian women who walked by, some of them with the dorky White guys that some of you have noticed. You see, here’s the issue: What urbs, kobukson, and Ma Sir are proposing is that people be like Kenji–not caring what Asian women do, going after White women, and “leaving the reservation,” as urbs likes to say. To paraphrase King, stop thinking of dating as a war or a battle.He’s open to dating Asian women, but for whatever reason, they’re not as much into him. Kenji was a Japanese national, and he worked with other Japanese nationals. He became a kind of brother to the women in his office.But he realizes at the same time that there is are areas of culture that White women–as a group, that is–are not going to understand. He worked at a small company staffed with about three or four drop-dead gorgeous young stylish Japanese women, and he was practically the only guy there! I was amazed at how cool and calm he was in their presence. ” “I prefer White women.” He then went on to talk about Esther Pan’s Newsweek article and how he found it to be untrue but developing.Third, there would be more Asian men dating White women, and as a result, we would probably would get more respect from Asian women. There’s an invisible chain around our necks, and nothing we do–nothing you do–will change that. Asking an Asian man to give up Asian women is like asking a gay man to give up men. I think it’s clear that judging from her interviews and everything else she’s done (Snow Flower with Hugh Jackman? She’s going to produce Orientalist movies and rob our people blind until all Asian men end up in ye poorhouse subservient to anyone who will be our masters. The addiction doesn’t go away until you are married or old or both. I don’t want to get too much into it now, but there’s a mental understanding too. Dan is good looking (“for an Asian guy,” as they like to say), he went to a good school, is very smart, etc. He’s always got a date, and more often than not, he’s dating good looking White women–the East Village artistic type with the piercings, the alternative style, etc.